Relationships · 6 positions
Relationship mirror spread
Six positions place two perspectives side by side. They organise reflection on perceptions, the relationship and hopes for its direction.
Practice deck: all 78 RWS cards
Version and dealing convention
The numbered diagram defines this version. Other traditions may place or name positions differently. The practice uses consecutive random draws from the displayed deck scope.
A question to try
How do I see this relationship, and what should we discuss directly?
Before you draw
- Write one open question and define its scope. Keep factual questions separate from symbolic reflection.
- Choose the position order and decide whether to include reversals before drawing.
- Read each card in its role, then compare the positions. Note uncertainty and one practical next question.
Position guide
- 1
My view of the other person
Describe your impression and distinguish it from observed behaviour.
- 2
The other perspective
Treat this card as a question about how you might be perceived, not as access to another mind.
- 3
My view of the relationship
Name the pattern you currently experience.
- 4
A perspective to check
Form a respectful question about the relationship to ask the other person.
- 5
My hopes
Reflect on what you would like to develop and whether you have expressed it.
- 6
Shared direction to discuss
Identify a topic for discussing future expectations without assuming agreement.
How to connect the positions
Reading sequence (read grouped roles together as explained below): 1 → 2 → 3 → 4 → 5 → 6
Read the cards in pairs: 1 with 2, 3 with 4, and 5 with 6. Notice where your own story is filling gaps in the other perspective. Turn each pair into one open question that allows the other person to disagree.
What to watch for
A spread cannot establish consent, loyalty or another person’s feelings. Direct communication and boundaries take priority.
Your practice
Practise this spread
Draw distinct cards to practise matching a meaning to a position. Read the prompts and compare them with the complete card meanings.
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